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I got teary eyed. The first time I saw them was May of ‘09. By that point I had my first tattoo (part of Lydia’s Illuminate album artwork) Mindy was still in the band, as well as Steve. I got to show them all my tattoo and they were just as stoked on it as I was.
I was also nervous and excited, so it’s definitely not odd at all!
Six years ago I came across the band (that sounds crazy when I actually say it, time flies!) I was going through a lot of personal stuff that I don’t feel comfortable openly talking about, but I found comfort in the band and their music. When things were bad I’d listen to This December; on repeat. Then Illuminate came out and I had both albums on repeat for months at a time whenever things got rough. They’re still my go-to albums, calms my anxiety. I couldn’t thank that band enough (and believe me, I’ve tried) for simply just existing. The most recent album I didn’t really get into. Assailants didn’t help me much either, but those first two albums will forever have my heart.
xo
I received this comment on a photo of myself on Instagram.
Now, the reason I’m posting this is because I have a lot to say.
First of all, this is equivalent to telling someone who is ‘overweight’ they need to eat less. It’s extremely rude and ignorant. Everyone has a different paced metabolism. Some people can eat and eat and eat and gain nothing, others can eat a little and gain a lot. There’s no universal body size. We’re all different. We all come in different shapes and sizes.
Me? I happen to not gain weight. I’m still trying to hit 100 pounds. Believe it or not, this is one of the things I am most self conscious about. A lot of you assume that just because someone is naturally skinny, their life is perfect.
NO. Get that bullshit out of your heads. Yes, it’s nice to not have to worry about losing weight or gaining weight when I eat certain things, but I can’t gain weight at all and it’s horrible. I’ve tried slowing my metabolism down, nothing. It is beyond my control. So when I am told to ‘eat more’ I take that as an insult. Especially when food is my best friend.
Watch what you say. A lot of you think it’s completely okay to say things like this to someone who is ‘skinny’ because you don’t think it’s a big deal, but if you were to say something similar to a bigger girl, it’d be a huge ordeal.
Picking on anyone’s body size is always going to be a big deal.
Aside from the fact that you’re not legally allowed to have them, it bums me out that you’re all trying to grow up too fast.
Stop that.
I don’t even like the fact that I started getting tattoos quickly after I turned 18, it’s not that I regret any of them, because I love every one of the ones I have, but it’s because I rushed into it.
Tattoos are things you should take time on, don’t be in such a rush to cover your bodies.
And most importantly, don’t be in such a rush to grow up. You’re ruining your youth.
To the girls who feel the need to post every five seconds and make it super apparent that they are “A GAMER” “A NERD” “STAR WARS FANATIC”,
Thank you.
You truly shine as a unique individual and if it weren’t for those posts we would have forgotten all about it.
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*yawn*
And you have every right to complain for x amount of time about it. I will not tell you how long you’re allowed to feel this way, because we all have different situations and they impact each individual differently.
But, if you continuously post about how shitty things are, then completely disregard those who are willing to LISTEN and HELP you and take time away from their own problems, just so you can sit there and sulk in your sob story for constant attention, I will not feel bad for you.
If you want to complain, but try and fix your problems, fine.
But if you want to complain and not do a damn thing about it, shut up.
Make-up is an art, and believe it or not, some girls do their make-up purely because they’re feeling creative.
So while people complain that a girl has on ‘too much make-up’ and would ‘look better without all of it’ that may be true, but that doesn’t mean she does her make-up like that constantly or to hide anything. More-so to display her creative side.
Just. Saying.
Telling someone they’re too ‘picky’ when it comes to finding a significant other.
Is that supposed to be some sort of insult? I think lowering your standards so you don’t have to be alone is the dumbest thing you could do.
Be picky, have high standards if that’s what’s going to make you truly happy.
Why would you want to go through life with someone you’re not completely head over heels for, just so you can partially fill the void quicker?
I’ll take having ‘high standards’ as a compliment, thank you.
Preaching about how rude it is to be mean to others, how ‘all body types should be respected’ and how you should ‘treat others with respect because you don’t know what someone else is going through.’
Then you go and anonymously write hate messages to each other because they’re doing something YOU don’t like on THEIR blog, or they look a certain way that isn’t up to your sorry standards, because, get real, I know a lot of you are that two faced.
Bums me out.
But it feels good to proudly say I’ve never contributed in leaving anyone any anonymous hate.
Before you preach about good things, work on yourself, first.
Your anonymous mask only covers so much. Your disgusting personalities leak through everything, and while you may feel good about yourself when you put someone else down, that will only get you so far before the guilt eats you away and karma comes around to kick you in the ass and give you a wake up call.
I love it when people are affectionate with me. I like when they always invite me places, or text me, or call me, I wouldn’t even mind if they blew up my fb wall with hearts and what not. I would rather have that person than someone who makes me text them first all the time and replies back like 10 hours later.
Fucking this.
Nope.
I don’t.
Here’s why:
After a while it gets old. Space is healthy. If you cling to someone too much, either your relationship or the relationships with other people you are friends with, gets ruined. You become dependent on them and that’s never good. Affection should be taken in moderation, having that equal balance of a friendship and romance is good. Who texts first, is stupid. If you’re in a relationship, or even not for that matter, and you want to talk to someone, text them. The boy should not be required to text first, and the guys shouldn’t expect the girls to, just because they think it’s unfair. When you want to talk, initiate it. If you want to keep the conversation going HOLD A CONVERSATION. Blowing up someones facebook with hearts and trying to make it known to everyone that you are in a relationship, is just straight up annoying. That’s just as bad as PDA.
If someone takes a bit to respond, it’s probably because their busy and if you think you take priority over someone being busy doing things, then stop right there.
But this is just my opinion. I like space. Actually, I love space. I don’t want to be suffocated by anyone, it’s unhealthy.
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People can depend on you for so much and claim you’re ‘soo important’ to them and you can be there for every single decision they make, or talk sense into their heads when they’re doing something you know isn’t beneficial for them, and just be their shoulder to cry on and at times THE ONLY shoulder to cry on, then suddenly the second they get a shitty significant other they throw it all away.
Fuck you. Don’t come back to me when it all goes downhill.
And also haven’t talked to in a little over a month just said he is not ‘allowed’ to talk to other girls.
GIRLS. IF YOU TELL YOUR BOYFRIEND THEY ARE NOT ALLOWED TO TALK TO GIRLS OR OTHER PEOPLE AS FRIENDS IN GENERAL, YOU’RE A FUCKING IDIOT.
SAME GOES FOR GUYS.
Just because you are dating someone, it does not mean you own them or control their actions.
Trust your significant other, or don’t be in a relationship.
Fuck.
I’m sorry, but I think this is a bit ridiculous.
Over texting……
This generation sucks.
I would never want my significant other to ONLY be texting me. It’s healthy to talk to other people. It’s about TRUST, you guys, TRUST.
It’s also healthy to NOT be glued to your phone constantly.
Wanting to talk all the time, fine, but legitimately having your emotions being that dependent on the speed of someone’s reply is completely ridiculous.
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