I think about this every-so-often, and I don’t talk about this kind of stuff on here very often. But, whenever I finally find a dude I’m comfortable enough to date that dishes mutual feelings back and will actually want to commit to me, I’m going to be a damn good girlfriend. That is one thing I have the most confidence about.
You don’t need to buy my expensive things or take me out to dinner every night or even every weekend. I don’t need the world or want the world. I want the little things. If you push my hair out of face or rub my back. Or if you randomly kiss my cheek. Or text me randomly saying you miss me. Or if you make a tweet about me or post a picture of us on instagram. Then that’s all I care about. I want the little things. I care way more about that, than anything else.
I really hate that we live in a generation where we feel the need to flaunt or be flaunted on social networking sites by the one we are interested in. Yes, it is nice, I agree I think it’s really flattering when the person I am interested in kind of makes a point to let everyone know ‘hey this is the girl I’m into and I’m proud about it’. But, I don’t think the little things should be things like a tweet talking about how much you wish your significant other is near you. I think the little things are things that are shared between the two of you because that’s all that matters. The little things are things that reassure the other they care. The little things are the things that seem effortless but make you feel more than most. Things that don’t expire. Like writing a letter, or little notes, or singing favourite songs together even if you absolutely butcher it. You can buy something you see that reminds you of them when you’re out and about, just because you spent money, doesn’t make it any less of a ‘little thing’. Things like sharing a cup of tea together, or going for a drive just to sit in silence or have a playlist to be the soundtrack to the drive. Or talk about everything, anything, and nothing. The little things are the simply the little things. Not the little things you say to prove to a group of strangers on the internet that you two are together. That’s when things get messed up, because they expect to be flaunted and get insulted if they’re not and think the other doesn’t care. Social media has ruined relationships and everyone’s definition of them.
When you feel like you’re at your lowest point, or even just when you feel awful, chances are you’re going to stay there until you pull yourself out.
You cannot depend on any.body.else. to pull you out for you.
Why? Because if you depend on somebody every time, you’ll never learn when you don’t have someone there to pull you out and you will sit there and soak in your misery until it starts flowing through your bloodstream and your mind gets so hazy you’ll forget who you are.
There’s going to be times when you feel like things are awful and you won’t understand why they are, maybe not for a little while, maybe not for a long while, but you will.
There’s going to be times when you feel like there is absolutely no one to turn to, and you’ll question yourself and convince yourself that you are the problem and you are the reason there isn’t, but I am here to tell you that you aren’t the problem.
There’s going to be times when things are awful because if there isn’t, then you don’t grow from it.
There’s going to be times when you have no one to turn to because you have to learn how to depend on yourself.
And you have to learn from experience, no one can tell you.
There is nothing wrong with you, there is nothing wrong with anyone else, because they’re still figuring themselves out, as well. Understand that.
There’s going to be times when you’re going to have to repeatedly tell yourself that “it will be okay” because it will be, even if you don’t believe yourself, it will be. If you still don’t think it is, I am here to tell you it will be.
It will be okay.
I want you guys to take this and learn from it, maybe it won’t apply to you now, maybe you’ll brush it off, but when you’re stuck in a low point, this post is going to pop up in to your head, and I hope it helps you.
The bottom line is, you have to help yourself. You can be upset for a little, but you will reach a point where you are the only one who can help you, and when you do, things will be okay.
I’m at home looking at pictures of Katy Perry.
Who’s the real one having fun here
Where I just become okay with certain people being out of my life after they walk out the door on their own.
So after that point is reached, and they try becoming relevant in my life again, I just get really fucking annoyed.
You either stick around, or realize you fucked up quickly and fix it, because chances are I’m just going to let you sit outside.
I don’t mind at all!
I get this question every once in a while, so I’ll publish it just to clear it up for anyone else who is curious as well.
First of all, before anyone else jumps on this because it happens sometimes, I do not think I’m better than anyone else for it, but thank you for saying it’s respectable, because I do take some pride in it, but I don’t let it define me.
I am not waiting for marriage, just the right boyfriend, yes. I at least want the benefit of being committed to before it. I mean I’ve gone this long it just seems silly to give it up to someone who doesn’t care at all, y’know?
It will happen when it happens, and I’m perfectly okay with that.
You can tell a lot about someone by the stupid shit they bitch about.
I think letting someone in on your favourite songs is equally one of the biggest forms of flattery and vulnerability.
When you really realize somebody who, at one point, consumed every inch of you, your heart, and mind, has absolutely no effect on you anymore.
You realize you can breathe again, and you’ve been breathing fine for a while, you just never had the chance to stop and notice it.
You can talk about that person with no emotion.
No bitterness, no happiness, absolutely nothing.
And this is a good thing because that person doesn’t even deserve your emotions, that person deserves nothing from you.
I will forever cherish your memories, but not your life.
That’s fine, I get that, girls can be catty and I don’t have a lot of girl friends myself because of it.
But if you seriously won’t befriend/completely write someone off right off the bat simply because they’re a girl, then you are the one with the problem.
Hop off your high horse, ladies.
If you don’t say ‘thank you’
I won’t say ‘sorry’ after I trip you when you walk by.
it is upsetting myself.